Love is stronger than death even though it can't stop death from happening, but no matter how hard death tries it can't separate people from love. It can't take away our memories either. In the end, life is stronger than death. - Unknown
Like it or not, death is a part of every life. We will all die.
Would you want to know if you had a terminal illness? Would you want to know how long you had to live? What, you don't want to think about that? You plan on living for ever?
The truth is we are all susceptible to having a tragic illness hit us at any time. How would you handle it? There really is no one right answer that covers everybody. It's too personal, too private, too emotional and very individual. So what does this have to do with anything? Why would somebody write about something so taboo?
Surely I must know nobody wants to think of their own immortality. Well, I'm not sure why I am writing this, I just felt I had too. Maybe it might help somebody who's struggling with dying so they won't feel alone or think that nobody could possibly understand. Well I DO understand, because.... I'm dying. And I do think about death.
One difference between planning your career or your lifestyle, and preparing for the time when you will not be here anymore, is that your death is definite. It will happen. It happens to all living things eventually. You may change your mind about your career several times over your life, but death is a certainty. Thinking about death is not morbid. It is being practical.
Be positive and pragmatic about your death. Plan how you are going to use every minute in the meantime, to live. Let it be your reason to stop procrastinating and to do the things you want and need to do. Let it be your reason for not wasting the precious time you have, because that time is limited. It is also valuable. Once spent, it is gone forever. You want to eat that 8oz steak? Go for it. You want to buy that Chanel purse? Go for it. Want to go see the ballet? Go for it. Do all the things you want to do now rather than later. Stop procrastating. We all need to live in the moment.
Use your time wisely to help other people and to enjoy the opportunities this world has to offer. Keep in mind that when you move on, you’ll be taking with you exactly what you came with -- nothing but your spirit and your soul. The knowledge and memory of experiences you have gained in this world are yours, but no material acquisitions will go with you. That Chanel bag you purchase will not matter. But I think if its something you really want and can afford, you should go for it. Haha. Whatever makes you happy.
Imagine if you were told that you were going to die and that you had only 3 months to live. How would you feel? What would be your concerns? Your fears? Is there anyone in your life you could talk to about these things? Or would you find yourself emotionally isolated like so many dying people do, because death is a taboo subject in our society? Be the first person to help change this situation.
Not thinking or talking about death will not prevent it. You can prolong your life through healthful safe living, but you cannot prevent it. Be a comfort to someone who knows their time is very short. Help them make peace with what they cannot change. Find a way to make peace with death yourself.
We all die. Just a matter of when. Sometimes I feel I have months, or many years, other times I feel I have days left. Lately, I've been going to bed not knowing if I'll wake up the next morning. Sad, I know. However, I have been feeling slightly better than Sept-Oct.
Let's hope for a better new year because 2012 was really shit. And I thought 2011 was bad! Jesus!
I know this is a morbid topic. I am not depressed. I am a realist.